How to Truly Save Money in Groceries: Change Your Scarcity Mentality


As I continue to pursue a lifestyle of living full out and worrying less about my weight, I am working hard to change my scarcity mentality.  A scarcity mentality implies that you think first and foremost from a starting point of “I don’t have enough; there isn’t enough to go around; I need more of.”

FoodLove Girl - "It's Never Enough Food!"

FoodLove Girl – “It’s Never Enough Food!”


The opposite of this would the abundance mentality.  With an abundance mentality, you start from a place of “I have everything I need”; “There is enough for everyone”; “If I run out, there is always more”.

I’ve noticed that I have this scarcity mentality in a lot of areas of my life and food is just one of them.  All of this stems from an internal belief of whether or not you believe that YOU ARE ENOUGH.   You must work to believe that you are enough and that you don’t need anyone or anything to validate your existence and your worth.  Once you do that, the rest falls into place

In my work to remind myself that I am enough and to shed my life of this scarcity mentality, I practiced this mentality at the grocery store last week and a miraculous thing happened.  My grocery bill was less. Continue reading

5 Ways that Falling in Love with Fall Can Help You Lose Weight

I love love, love the fall. Did I say love? Looove. And I always want to recruit people in this obsession with fall. So my little weight loss seekers, I thought I’d play on your desire to lose weight by telling you that I think fall is the best season for you to get in shape and revamp your healthy habits. Here are five ways that the beautiful season of Fall can support a healthier lifestyle:

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How to Learn from Your Eating Habits to Improve Your Whole Life!


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In her book, Women, Food and God, Geneen Roth says, “How you eat is how you do everything”

I have been thinking about this quote a lot, mainly because I find it to be so true.

This blog is all about healing our relationship with food. If you read this blog regularly, it is perhaps because you have had years of struggling with finding the right balance for food in your life.  You possibly have a history of overeating or eating things that don’t provide energy and vitality to your life.  And you want to change that once and for all.  Perhaps, analyzing this quote, can help us finally, finally heal our relationship with food.

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How to Make Sure Cockiness Doesn’t Ruin Your Weight Loss Success


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A friend of mind texted me recently, “Now that I am so close to my goal weight, I fear that I will get cocky and sabotage my own progress. How do I make sure that doesn’t happen?

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2 Fantastic Tricks to Conquer Your Worst Fear and Live Your Best Life Today!

One of the reasons I started this blog was because I wanted a place to discuss the areas of my life that I thought were being limited by my weight.  I thought if I could just focus harder on losing the weight then all my other goals in life would fall into place.  As it turns out the weight was only hanging around because I wasn’t focusing on living my life – I was focusing on the weight.

“What you focus on expands. So focus on what you want, not what you do not want.”

― Esther Jno-Charles

I focused on the weight because it was easier than admitting what I was too scared to face.

I’ve recently found two tricks that are helping me face my fears and do what I really want to do in this life BEFORE I reach my ideal weight. Continue reading

How Watching the Olympics Can Inspire You to Lose Weight

 Last Friday started the 31st Olympics. Last week I watched as Kerry Jennings-Walsh began her journey to a fourth straight gold in beach volleyball at 37 after having her third child!  Then I watched Michael Phelps win his 21st gold medal.  And then I watched  Simone Biles do the most incredible things I’ve ever witnessed a gymnast do in the history of gymnastics.  And finally I watched Usain Bolt prove once again that he is the fastest man alive.
After watching Simone Biles, Lester Holt, from NBC said it best, “You are witnessing the greatest gymnast of all time and that is worth your time any time.”
Why do we watch the Olympics?
Because we want to witness Greatness. Because we want to see what dedication, real dedication, looks like in action. For four years these individuals have focused on virtually nothing else but this one goal – to make it to the Olympics and win.
Every day we all struggle with our own limitations and shortcomings and we try to do better each day. We make new resolves each week to do better and we reflect on the past week to see what we can change.
Here, in the FoodLove Community, we work on improving all aspects of our lives so that we can fix the real issues and stop using food to hide from them.  We want to be better. But more than that,  we want to be great. We want to be strong enough to face our fears so that we can reach our greatest potential.
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, ‘Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?’ Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”
Marianne Williamson, A Return to Love: Reflections on the Principles of “A Course in Miracles”
Watching the Olympics brings us closer to greatness. And if you’re like me and you’re a junkie for this stuff and you can’t get enough, it’s because you not only respect the greatness you’re witnessing, you want it for yourself one day as well.
So watch the Olympics, cheer on your team, whichever team that may be (Go USA!). And soak in the focus, determination and drive that all of these beautiful athletes embody. And just like them, demand greatness for yourself and then go get it.
The body that results from a person who seeks greatness will not have excess weight. I promise you that. There will be no room in your life for it. Simple as that.

How to De-Stress and Lose Weight: An Ingenious New System

A few months ago I gave you my new laundry system that I created to keep clothes off my floor and not spend all my time on Sundays folding and putting up clean clothes.  As I continue to work on my weight and my health , I find that one of the keys to success is implementing systems for the everyday tasks that take up my time and stress me out. I have a history of using food to de-stress and while I definitely support working on those deeper issues of why I choose food as my crutch in the first place,  I also believe in creating a life that is overall just less stressful.
Today I want to tell you about a program that has truly changed my life in such a simple way it’s ridiculous. It’s called Project 333.

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Have Lunch with Warren Buffet. It Can Help You Lose Weight.

Two weeks ago, the annual bid for a lunch with Warren Buffet took place. The winning bid was for just under  $3.5 million dollars.
I want all of us to take  moment and think about what it means to be the kind of person that bids and wins a lunch with Warren Buffet at the tune of $3.5 million dollars.
There is a lot we can learn from this man (or woman) that can help us in our weight loss journey. Let me explain.

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Welcome to the FoodLove Community!

Hello and Welcome to the FoodLove Community! 


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My name is Ryan but you can call me FoodLove Girl!   me_bitmoji I originally thought of that nickname because I loooove food….. but food has not always loved me.  I have been struggling with my weight for 15+ years now and although I haven’t quite mastered it yet, I’ve learned a lot along the way and now I want to share it with you.



The purpose of FoodLoveMe/FoodHateMe is to share  my ongoing journey as a “lessons learned” and “lessons learning” in an attempt to help you shorten your weight loss journey.  If I can help just one person shorten their journey by one year, or even one month, then all of the pain and struggles I’ve been through related to my weight will have been worth it.


You have arrived at a safe haven for people who have struggled with their weight and their relationship with food for years and are tired and ready to heal.


In this struggle to be healthy and happy amidst a complicated world of misinformation that leaves us frustrated and unhappy, I believe there is a simple solution to ending the madness.  Here in the FoodLove Community we focus on what I believe are the 3 main elements of that solution: 

  1. Surrendering Your Weight Loss Journey
  2. Focusing on Living “Full Out”
  3. Creating Systems to make everything easier and less stressful

What You’ll Find Here on This Blog:  Continue reading

How to Separate Your Two Favorite Hobbies to Lose Weight Now!

I am working very hard right now to try to eat without distractions and be in the moment and enjoy my meals.  So much of my excess weight is a result of mindless eating.   Most of that mindless eating has happened while watching television.  Over the years I’ve formed a bad habit of getting off work, feeling the need to unwind and choosing to sit down in front of the television and snack.  2 hours later, I’ve wolfed down 300-500 totally unnecessary calories.
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There is something missing from my life that compels me to this habit day after day.  This is a hard issue to resolve and it is taking some time.   While I have been exploring the deeper issues behind this habit,  I’ve come up with some tricks that are helping me break away from this habit. I  think they will help you too.
Here are 5 tips for separating your two favorite habits to lose weight now:

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How to Sustain New Habits After Your 1st Challenge

You did a 30 day challenge. You focused, you stayed with it and you feel like it was long enough to establish some really good habits.  aww yeah_bitmoji
And now you’re facing the end of the challenge and panic ensues. What now? How do you keep up the good habits without the daily email reminders and Facebook group support?
I’ve participated in many 30 day and 21 day challenges and I’ve learned a thing or two about how to sustain your good habits after you finish a challenge.
Here are my top four tips for sustaining the new habit after the challenge is over:

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How to Rely on Your Faith to Help You Lose Weight

I am Muslim. But this post is for anyone who believes in a higher power.
In a few days I will end my fasting for the month of Ramadan. During this holy month I often find myself reflecting on my relationship with God. I aim to get closer to Him during this month each year. And in the past year I’ve been bringing Him more into my weight loss journey. Let me explain.

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Sunday Prep Day and FoodLove Girl’s Weekly Accountability Report (July 3, 2016)

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Hello and welcome to another edition of Sunday Prep and FoodLove Girl’s Weekly Accontability Report.  Each week I take a moment to share with you how my eating went and then what steps I’m taking on Sunday to prepare for an awesome, healthy week.  If you don’t care to hear about the nitty gritty details of my eating and weight loss, please skip this first part and scroll down to the Sunday Prep section of this post.

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Halfway Thru 2016………Let’s Knock It Out of the Park!


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It’s June 27th, last week of June.  I started to wait until next Sunday but I wanted you to have a week to read this and get pumped up and make a plan.  We still have 6 months left and that is plenty of time to re-evaluate any of your goals that you haven’t made a lot of progress on or goals you have made progress on but you’re still not where you want to be.  We still have time.  WE can do this! Continue reading

Look Great at Any Weight (Part 2): Get a Nordstrom Stylist!



When we feel bad about ourselves or when we feel “lesser than”, we turn to food to make us feel better.  That is what we, overeaters, do.  If we are ever to heal our relationship with food and no longer turn to it for comfort then we must heal ourselves.  This starts with improving our self-image.

One area that I hear all overweight women struggle with is how they look in their clothes.  Either they have given up and just seemingly don’t care or they feel like they try and they keep failing to look good.

If you are one of those people that says “I don’t care”.  Trust me.  You’re kidding yourself.  You say you don’t care and then you overeat – why? Because you do care – you just don’t know how to solve the problem.

The obvious answer always seems to be:  Lose the Weight.  But it’s not that simple.  No matter how much weight I have lost, I’ve still struggled in the stores to find what best fits me and I always leave the store feeling bad about the way my body is shaped.    Until recently, when everything changed…….. Continue reading

Experimenting As a Way of Life Can Help You Lose Weight

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Okay, so this is why you should love this blog, b/c I look and listen and read everything with a “weight loss eye”.  I am always asking “how can I apply that to my health journey”.  And then I share it with you. Anything that works for me, I share with you.  Heck, anything that doesn’t work for me, I share with you.  It is my hope that through this blog, and through my journey, I can shorten your journey.  If I can help even one person to lose weight faster, shave off one year or one month from their journey, then it will have been worth it.

I heard this podcast, The Chalene Show, and the episode was called “Mastering the Skills of Joy and Happiness with Best Selling author R. Michael Anderson.  This guy said something very important that I think can help us on our weight loss journey.  He said, when faced with a decision or a challenge you’re wanting to do, don’t make it so finite by saying “I’m going to do this or that”.   Why not instead just say “I’m trying an experiment” because when you experiment you’re testing.  You admittedly don’t know if it’s going to work, that’s why you’re experimenting.  Suddenly failure is allowed.  Brilliant.

Words are very important.  The words we use to talk about ourselves to other people, the words we use to talk to ourselves.  They are all very important.  The words we use can either empower us or debilitate us.  If we say, “I’m going to go on a diet” What does that do?  It sets up this impression that we’re going to do something that has a finite time frame on it and it’s going to give us lasting results.  So either we fail at sticking to the diet through the duration of the set time frame or we fail at keeping the weight off after the diet.  Either way we fail.

But if we say “I’m going to experiment with this style of eating” then we’ve established a plan that has an indefinite time frame on it for as long as we benefit from it.  And if we stop benefiting from that style of eating, well then we gain some knowledge about what does and doesn’t work for us.  Continue reading

Exercise For Your Health, NOT To Be Thin!

Exercise For Your Health NOT To Be Thin!

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So this is a topic that I’ve been meaning to talk about for a while and I’ve been hearing a lot of chatter about it online recently and I heard a great podcast about it and so it has finally compelled me to discuss it with you today but it is long overdue.  And that is the subject of exercise.  More specifically I am hear to tell you a brutal, honest truth.  Here goes:  Exercise will not help you lose weight.  It won’t.  But you should love it anyway.  Confused?  Let me explain. Continue reading

The Book That Changed My Weight Loss Journey Forever


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The book is A Course In Weight Loss: 21 Spiritual Lessons for Surrendering Your Weight Forever by Williamson, Marianne 1st (first) Edition (11/2/2010)

Let me start by saying this year was my third attempt at trying to finish this book.  The fist time I made it through the first 3 lessons and that was enough to get me going to lose that 30 lbs I lost in 2010/2011.  But it wasn’t enough to keep it off.  This time, after reading some other very good books that helped me tap into my past (posts coming later on those) and books that helped me get closer to “my life’s work”, after reading these books and really coming to terms with the idea that my real work in weight loss at this point has got to be on my brain and my heart – not my body (i.e. not exercise).  Also my new habit of practicing the Miracle Mornings allowed me the time to work through the exercises in this book and really think about what they meant to my life.   When I came to terms with that earlier this year, I was able to get back to this book for the third and final time and I made it all the way through.

In short the book’s message is this:

You are overweight because you use food to cope with your fears.  Instead, turn to God and let his love support you through this journey and fill up your heart so that there is no room for fear. Continue reading