― Marianne Williamson,
― Marianne Williamson,
Hello and Welcome to the FoodLove Community!
My name is Ryan but you can call me FoodLove Girl! I originally thought of that nickname because I loooove food….. but food has not always loved me. I have been struggling with my weight for 15+ years now and although I haven’t quite mastered it yet, I’ve learned a lot along the way and now I want to share it with you.
The purpose of FoodLoveMe/FoodHateMe is to share my ongoing journey as a “lessons learned” and “lessons learning” in an attempt to help you shorten your weight loss journey. If I can help just one person shorten their journey by one year, or even one month, then all of the pain and struggles I’ve been through related to my weight will have been worth it.
You have arrived at a safe haven for people who have struggled with their weight and their relationship with food for years and are tired and ready to heal.
In this struggle to be healthy and happy amidst a complicated world of misinformation that leaves us frustrated and unhappy, I believe there is a simple solution to ending the madness. Here in the FoodLove Community we focus on what I believe are the 3 main elements of that solution:
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We’re back again for another edition of Sunday Prep and FoodLove Girl’s Weekly Accountability Report!
I missed a few days and I’m still behind but I had some really good success in the kitchen and I really wanted to share. In that vain, I’m going to keep this brief but still hopefully leave you with a bunch of yummy pictures and ideas for meal planning and having some healthy fun the rest of this week. Continue reading
Hello and welcome to another edition of Sunday Prep and FoodLove Girl’s Weekly Accontability Report. Each week I take a moment to share with you how my eating went and then what steps I’m taking on Sunday to prepare for an awesome, healthy week. If you don’t care to hear about the nitty gritty details of my eating and weight loss, please skip this first part and scroll down to the Sunday Prep section of this post.
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It’s June 27th, last week of June. I started to wait until next Sunday but I wanted you to have a week to read this and get pumped up and make a plan. We still have 6 months left and that is plenty of time to re-evaluate any of your goals that you haven’t made a lot of progress on or goals you have made progress on but you’re still not where you want to be. We still have time. WE can do this! Continue reading
When we feel bad about ourselves or when we feel “lesser than”, we turn to food to make us feel better. That is what we, overeaters, do. If we are ever to heal our relationship with food and no longer turn to it for comfort then we must heal ourselves. This starts with improving our self-image.
One area that I hear all overweight women struggle with is how they look in their clothes. Either they have given up and just seemingly don’t care or they feel like they try and they keep failing to look good.
If you are one of those people that says “I don’t care”. Trust me. You’re kidding yourself. You say you don’t care and then you overeat – why? Because you do care – you just don’t know how to solve the problem.
The obvious answer always seems to be: Lose the Weight. But it’s not that simple. No matter how much weight I have lost, I’ve still struggled in the stores to find what best fits me and I always leave the store feeling bad about the way my body is shaped. Until recently, when everything changed…….. Continue reading
Okay, so this is why you should love this blog, b/c I look and listen and read everything with a “weight loss eye”. I am always asking “how can I apply that to my health journey”. And then I share it with you. Anything that works for me, I share with you. Heck, anything that doesn’t work for me, I share with you. It is my hope that through this blog, and through my journey, I can shorten your journey. If I can help even one person to lose weight faster, shave off one year or one month from their journey, then it will have been worth it.
I heard this podcast, The Chalene Show, and the episode was called “Mastering the Skills of Joy and Happiness with Best Selling author R. Michael Anderson. This guy said something very important that I think can help us on our weight loss journey. He said, when faced with a decision or a challenge you’re wanting to do, don’t make it so finite by saying “I’m going to do this or that”. Why not instead just say “I’m trying an experiment” because when you experiment you’re testing. You admittedly don’t know if it’s going to work, that’s why you’re experimenting. Suddenly failure is allowed. Brilliant.
Words are very important. The words we use to talk about ourselves to other people, the words we use to talk to ourselves. They are all very important. The words we use can either empower us or debilitate us. If we say, “I’m going to go on a diet” What does that do? It sets up this impression that we’re going to do something that has a finite time frame on it and it’s going to give us lasting results. So either we fail at sticking to the diet through the duration of the set time frame or we fail at keeping the weight off after the diet. Either way we fail.
But if we say “I’m going to experiment with this style of eating” then we’ve established a plan that has an indefinite time frame on it for as long as we benefit from it. And if we stop benefiting from that style of eating, well then we gain some knowledge about what does and doesn’t work for us. Continue reading
Exercise For Your Health NOT To Be Thin!
So this is a topic that I’ve been meaning to talk about for a while and I’ve been hearing a lot of chatter about it online recently and I heard a great podcast about it and so it has finally compelled me to discuss it with you today but it is long overdue. And that is the subject of exercise. More specifically I am hear to tell you a brutal, honest truth. Here goes: Exercise will not help you lose weight. It won’t. But you should love it anyway. Confused? Let me explain. Continue reading
Let me start by saying this year was my third attempt at trying to finish this book. The fist time I made it through the first 3 lessons and that was enough to get me going to lose that 30 lbs I lost in 2010/2011. But it wasn’t enough to keep it off. This time, after reading some other very good books that helped me tap into my past (posts coming later on those) and books that helped me get closer to “my life’s work”, after reading these books and really coming to terms with the idea that my real work in weight loss at this point has got to be on my brain and my heart – not my body (i.e. not exercise). Also my new habit of practicing the Miracle Mornings allowed me the time to work through the exercises in this book and really think about what they meant to my life. When I came to terms with that earlier this year, I was able to get back to this book for the third and final time and I made it all the way through.
In short the book’s message is this:
You are overweight because you use food to cope with your fears. Instead, turn to God and let his love support you through this journey and fill up your heart so that there is no room for fear. Continue reading
One of the reasons I started this blog was because I wanted a place to discuss the areas of my life that I thought were being limited by my weight. I thought if I could just focus harder on losing the weight then all my other goals in life would fall into place. As it turns out the weight was only hanging around because I wasn’t focusing on living my life – I was focusing on the weight.
“What you focus on expands. So focus on what you want, not what you do not want.”
― Esther Jno-Charles
I focused on the weight because it was easier than admitting what I was too scared to face.
I’ve recently found two tricks that are helping me face my fears and do what I really want to do in this life BEFORE I reach my ideal weight. Continue reading