FoodLoveMe/FoodHateMe: What Is This Blog All About?



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Hello there!  Welcome to the FoodLove Community.  You have arrived at a safe haven for people who have struggled with their weight and their relationship with food for years and are tired and ready to heal.


My name is Ryan but you can call me FoodLove Girl!  I originally thought of that nickname because I loooove food….. but food has not always loved me.  I have been struggling with my weight for 15+ years now and although I haven’t quite mastered it yet, I’ve learned a lot along the way and now I want to share it with you.  The purpose of FoodLoveMe/FoodHateMe is to share  my ongoing journey as a “lessons learned” and “lessons learning” in an attempt to help you shorten your weight loss journey.  If I can help just one person shorten their journey by one year, or even one month, then all of the pain and struggles I’ve been through related to my weight will have been worth it.

In this struggle to be healthy and happy amidst a complicated world of misinformation that leaves us frustrated and unhappy, I believe there is a simple solution to ending the madness.  Here in the FoodLove Community we focus on what I believe are the 3 main elements of that solution: 

  1. Surrendering Your Weight Loss Journey
  2. Focusing on Living “Full Out”
  3. Creating Systems to make everything easier and less stressful

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How to Separate Your Two Favorite Hobbies to Lose Weight Now!

I am working very hard right now to try to eat without distractions and be in the moment and enjoy my meals.  So much of my excess weight is a result of mindless eating.   Most of that mindless eating has happened while watching television.  Over the years I’ve formed a bad habit of getting off work, feeling the need to unwind and choosing to sit down in front of the television and snack.  2 hours later, I’ve wolfed down 300-500 totally unnecessary calories.
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There is something missing from my life that compels me to this habit day after day.  This is a hard issue to resolve and it is taking some time.   While I have been exploring the deeper issues behind this habit,  I’ve come up with some tricks that are helping me break away from this habit. I  think they will help you too.
Here are 5 tips for separating your two favorite habits to lose weight now:

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Sunday Prep and FoodLove Girl’s Weekly Accountability Report (July 10 and 17, 2016)


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We’re back again for another edition of Sunday Prep and FoodLove Girl’s Weekly Accountability Report!

I missed a few days and I’m still behind but I had some really good success in the kitchen and I really wanted to share.  In that vain, I’m going to keep this brief but still hopefully leave you with a bunch of yummy pictures and ideas for meal planning and having some healthy fun the rest of this week. Continue reading

How to Sustain New Habits After Your 1st Challenge

You did a 30 day challenge. You focused, you stayed with it and you feel like it was long enough to establish some really good habits.  aww yeah_bitmoji
And now you’re facing the end of the challenge and panic ensues. What now? How do you keep up the good habits without the daily email reminders and Facebook group support?
I’ve participated in many 30 day and 21 day challenges and I’ve learned a thing or two about how to sustain your good habits after you finish a challenge.
Here are my top four tips for sustaining the new habit after the challenge is over:

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Use Your Faith to Help You Lose Weight

I am Muslim. But this post is for anyone who believes that there is something higher than this world.
In a few days I will end my fasting for the month of Ramadan. During this holy month I often find myself reflecting on my relationship with God. I aim to get closer to Him during this month each year. And in the past year I’ve been bringing Him more into my weight loss journey. Let me explain.

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Sunday Prep Day and FoodLove Girl’s Weekly Accountability Report (July 3, 2016)

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Hello and welcome to another edition of Sunday Prep and FoodLove Girl’s Weekly Accontability Report.  Each week I take a moment to share with you how my eating went and then what steps I’m taking on Sunday to prepare for an awesome, healthy week.  If you don’t care to hear about the nitty gritty details of my eating and weight loss, please skip this first part and scroll down to the Sunday Prep section of this post.

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Halfway Thru 2016………Let’s Knock It Out of the Park!


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It’s June 27th, last week of June.  I started to wait until next Sunday but I wanted you to have a week to read this and get pumped up and make a plan.  We still have 6 months left and that is plenty of time to re-evaluate any of your goals that you haven’t made a lot of progress on or goals you have made progress on but you’re still not where you want to be.  We still have time.  WE can do this! Continue reading

Look Great at Any Weight (Part 2): Get a Nordstrom Stylist!



When we feel bad about ourselves or when we feel “lesser than”, we turn to food to make us feel better.  That is what we, overeaters, do.  If we are ever to heal our relationship with food and no longer turn to it for comfort then we must heal ourselves.  This starts with improving our self-image.

One area that I hear all overweight women struggle with is how they look in their clothes.  Either they have given up and just seemingly don’t care or they feel like they try and they keep failing to look good.

If you are one of those people that says “I don’t care”.  Trust me.  You’re kidding yourself.  You say you don’t care and then you overeat – why? Because you do care – you just don’t know how to solve the problem.

The obvious answer always seems to be:  Lose the Weight.  But it’s not that simple.  No matter how much weight I have lost, I’ve still struggled in the stores to find what best fits me and I always leave the store feeling bad about the way my body is shaped.    Until recently, when everything changed…….. Continue reading

Experimenting As a Way of Life Can Help You Lose Weight

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Okay, so this is why you should love this blog, b/c I look and listen and read everything with a “weight loss eye”.  I am always asking “how can I apply that to my health journey”.  And then I share it with you. Anything that works for me, I share with you.  Heck, anything that doesn’t work for me, I share with you.  It is my hope that through this blog, and through my journey, I can shorten your journey.  If I can help even one person to lose weight faster, shave off one year or one month from their journey, then it will have been worth it.

I heard this podcast, The Chalene Show, and the episode was called “Mastering the Skills of Joy and Happiness with Best Selling author R. Michael Anderson.  This guy said something very important that I think can help us on our weight loss journey.  He said, when faced with a decision or a challenge you’re wanting to do, don’t make it so finite by saying “I’m going to do this or that”.   Why not instead just say “I’m trying an experiment” because when you experiment you’re testing.  You admittedly don’t know if it’s going to work, that’s why you’re experimenting.  Suddenly failure is allowed.  Brilliant.

Words are very important.  The words we use to talk about ourselves to other people, the words we use to talk to ourselves.  They are all very important.  The words we use can either empower us or debilitate us.  If we say, “I’m going to go on a diet” What does that do?  It sets up this impression that we’re going to do something that has a finite time frame on it and it’s going to give us lasting results.  So either we fail at sticking to the diet through the duration of the set time frame or we fail at keeping the weight off after the diet.  Either way we fail.

But if we say “I’m going to experiment with this style of eating” then we’ve established a plan that has an indefinite time frame on it for as long as we benefit from it.  And if we stop benefiting from that style of eating, well then we gain some knowledge about what does and doesn’t work for us.  Continue reading

Exercise For Your Health, NOT To Be Thin!

Exercise For Your Health NOT To Be Thin!

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So this is a topic that I’ve been meaning to talk about for a while and I’ve been hearing a lot of chatter about it online recently and I heard a great podcast about it and so it has finally compelled me to discuss it with you today but it is long overdue.  And that is the subject of exercise.  More specifically I am hear to tell you a brutal, honest truth.  Here goes:  Exercise will not help you lose weight.  It won’t.  But you should love it anyway.  Confused?  Let me explain. Continue reading

The Book That Changed My Weight Loss Journey Forever


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The book is A Course In Weight Loss: 21 Spiritual Lessons for Surrendering Your Weight Forever by Williamson, Marianne 1st (first) Edition (11/2/2010)

Let me start by saying this year was my third attempt at trying to finish this book.  The fist time I made it through the first 3 lessons and that was enough to get me going to lose that 30 lbs I lost in 2010/2011.  But it wasn’t enough to keep it off.  This time, after reading some other very good books that helped me tap into my past (posts coming later on those) and books that helped me get closer to “my life’s work”, after reading these books and really coming to terms with the idea that my real work in weight loss at this point has got to be on my brain and my heart – not my body (i.e. not exercise).  Also my new habit of practicing the Miracle Mornings allowed me the time to work through the exercises in this book and really think about what they meant to my life.   When I came to terms with that earlier this year, I was able to get back to this book for the third and final time and I made it all the way through.

In short the book’s message is this:

You are overweight because you use food to cope with your fears.  Instead, turn to God and let his love support you through this journey and fill up your heart so that there is no room for fear. Continue reading

Sunday Prep and FoodLove Girl’s Weekly Accountability Report (July 24, 2016)

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Hello,  Happy Sunday.  Every week I like to take the opportunity to let you know how I’m doing on my personal weight loss journey.  We talk a lot here about figuring out how to re-focus our lives away from weight loss and what tips and tricks we can use to make the process go more smoothly and I just like to make sure that you can see how I’m implementing all of that into my own life.  In addition, I also like to discuss how my Sunday Prep went.  I strongly believe in taking a few hours on Sunday to prep and make sure that you have everything in place to have the most successful week possible.  It is my goal to make the prep as quick as possible.  I’m a long way from my goal but as I experiment and learn more tricks and systems I love to take a moment to share them with you.  Enjoy! Continue reading