5 Reasons to Embrace Your Plus Size Pregnancy

My biggest fear used to be that I wouldn’t lose weight before I got pregnant. I was so fearful of going into a pregnancy when I was already overweight that I delayed getting pregnant for several years even when I was ready to start a family.  I was not so overweight that doctors were worried about me having a healthy pregnancy. No.  I just wasn’t at my ideal weight or whatever I had decided that should be.

5 Reasons to Embrace Your Plus Size Pregnancy

 

 

When I finally faced my fears not only did I get pregnant and have a beautiful, healthy son (Yay!) but I also realized that my fears were in fact assets.  If you think that being overweight means that you can’t get pregnant or that you won’t enjoy your pregnancy think again.  I ended up not only facing my fears but enjoying a large part of my pregnancy (not the very end!).

Here are five good reasons to embrace your plus size pregnancy:

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Six Ideas from Islam I Use to Help Me Lose Weight

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This post is a response to James Altucher post titled, Six Ideas From Islam I Use to Find Success.

When something has been a part of your life forever it can be easy to get lost in the details and forget the fundamental reasons you committed in the first place. Such is the case with my religion. I recently read a post from one of my favorite online thought provokers, James Altucher about how Islam has helped inspire his success. I find it interesting that the person whose post re-invigorated my love of Islam is in fact not a Muslim. But that is what I love about my religion – the simple foundations that you can use to create a beautiful life independent of your personal beliefs about God.

 So I was inspired to look at the 6 ideas James highlighted and see how they can help me with my quest to heal my relationship with food and stop my emotional overeating.

1. Surrender – Islam teaches you to surrender everything to God. To act in service of God and take God with you on your journey through life. I was first reminded of this idea as it applies to our weight loss journey when I read Marianne Williamson’s A Course in Weight Loss. This was the premise of the entire book and I talk a lot about that book on this blog because it was a real turning point for me in my relationship with food. Every day that I can remind myself that I am not meant to do this alone is a better eating day for me right from the start.  When we surrender our problems to God they suddenly become much smaller because nothing is too much or too great when measured against God. We can always cope when we bring in God’s love. Continue reading

How to Get Your Workouts Done When You Are a New Mom: 7 Tips

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I had a baby 12 weeks ago.  Typically you are medically allowed to start working out 6 weeks after you give birth.  Being medically allowed to do something and actually getting started and finding time are two very different things.  I think that this time in my life is the most insane period I’ve ever had when it comes to finding a spare moment and navigating the logistics that come with having a newborn in the house.  It’s been 4 weeks now since  I started working out and I have figured out some tricks to set yourself up for success.  I hope you find them useful.

7 Tips for Getting Your Workouts Done When You are a New Mom:

1. Remember the primary goal: to move your body vigorously for a minimum of 30 minutes everyday. No matter what’s happening if you remember this is the goal then you will have a greater chance of overcoming obstacles in your way because you won’t be distracted  by things that don’t matter.  The only thing that matters is moving your body vigorously for 30 minutes or more. Continue reading

How to Finally Stop Giving A F*ck About Your Weight

 

I recently read a book called The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life. To be completely accurate, I “read” the book using Audible.  I’m not sure how to explain it but certain books are better when listened to than when read and some are better when you actually read them. For me, this was the former.  This book was very direct and in your face and in my opinion, it needs to be listened to.  You need to really hear this and I think listening makes that easier when you’re not using your own voice and reading it.  If you let it, this book can allow you to shift your mindset and you know that’s what we’re all about here at FoodLoveMe/FoodHateMe. We are trying to change our mindset. We’re trying to change how we think about our weight, about our relationship with food.

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Will God Want to Talk About My Weight on Judgement Day?

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Will God Want to Talk About My Weight on Judgement Day?

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That is the question that popped in my head this morning.  In my religion we believe that there will be a judgement day at the end of it all and on that day there will be an accounting of all of our good and bad deeds on this earth that will ultimately lead to our final destination – heaven or hell.  And I wondered this morning – On Judgement Day, would the discussion of my weight be on the table?

I believe that God would not care about my weight, given all the other things we would have to discuss and all the other people in line.  God ain’t got no time for that!

I think instead what might be on the table is the discussion of time wasted.  I think that is a definitely possibility.  And so in that discussion quite possibly God will want to talk to me about how much time I wasted worrying about my weight. Continue reading

Face Your Biggest Fears to Help You Lose Weight

So what happens when you finally face your fear? You start living,  that’s what.
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I have news for you. Dieting , journaling our food, over-exercising, counting our points, obsessing over our weight- THAT IS NOT LIVING! At least not very well.
Think about how many hours of your life have been wasted obsessing over your weight. How many opportunities have you passed up because you claimed you needed to focus on your weight-loss? And how many times have you promised yourself that as soon as you got to your ideal weight you’d go after that dream?
My dream for this blog, FoodLoveMe/FoodLoveMe, is that I can stop all of you from obsessing over your weight and help you to start living your lives.  I used to think that meant experimenting on myself and figuring out the best way to control emotional overeating and then teaching that to you. But now I realize that the goal is really more about  helping you learn how to live full out and fill your lives with so much great shit that you simply don’t have room in your life for obsessing over your weight.  And achieving this goal starts with first helping you to  face your fear.

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5 Tips for Staying Healthy When Hosting Houseguests

5 Tips to Help You Stay Healthy When Hosting Houseguests

Last weekend my mother came to visit and we had a sort of House Crashers episode in my house.  Have you seen that show on HGTV?  It’s where they come in your house and remodel and decorate and transform it in like 3 days.  That is seriously what it felt like when we were done.  3 days of nonstop shopping, decorating, and gardening.  And if I do say so myself, my house looks fabulous!  In the midst of that, I did not eat as planned and it brought me to this week’s highlighted post:  “How to Stay Healthy When Hosting Houseguests”  I hope you find is useful the next time you find yourself with houseguests. stay healthy hosting houseguests Continue reading

The Book That Changed My Weight Loss Journey Forever

 

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The book is A Course In Weight Loss: 21 Spiritual Lessons for Surrendering Your Weight Forever by Williamson, Marianne 1st (first) Edition (11/2/2010)

Let me start by saying this year was my third attempt at trying to finish this book.  The first time I made it through the first 3 lessons and that was enough to get me going to lose that 30 lbs I lost in 2010/2011.  But it wasn’t enough to keep it off.  At the beginning of 2015, I  began a new habit of practicing the Miracle Mornings routine which allowed me the time to work through the exercises in this book and really think about what they meant to my life.   Finally, I was able to get back to this book for the third and final time and I made it all the way through.

In short the book’s message is this:

You are overweight because you use food to cope with your fears.  Instead, turn to God and let his love support you through this journey and fill up your heart so that there is no room for fear. Continue reading