Look Great at Any Weight (Part 2): Get a Nordstrom Stylist!

 

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When we feel bad about ourselves or when we feel “lesser than”, we turn to food to make us feel better.  That is what we, overeaters, do.  If we are ever to heal our relationship with food and no longer turn to it for comfort then we must heal ourselves.  This starts with improving our self-image.

One area that I hear all overweight women struggle with is how they look in their clothes.  Either they have given up and just seemingly don’t care or they feel like they try and they keep failing to look good.

If you are one of those people that says “I don’t care”.  Trust me.  You’re kidding yourself.  You say you don’t care and then you overeat – why? Because you do care – you just don’t know how to solve the problem.

The obvious answer always seems to be:  Lose the Weight.  But it’s not that simple.  No matter how much weight I have lost, I’ve still struggled in the stores to find what best fits me and I always leave the store feeling bad about the way my body is shaped.    Until recently, when everything changed…….. Continue reading

SUNDAY PREP DAY AND FOODLOVE GIRL’S WEEKLY ACCOUNTABILITY REPORT (JUNE 19, 2016)

 

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Well, hello again and welcome to another week of FoodLove Girl’s Weekly Accountability and Sunday Prep Day.  This is my weekly post where I give you specific details on where I’m at in my weight loss journey.  This is both to help keep me be accountable to you, my FoodLove community, as well as to be sure to carefully document for you any successes I’m having and yes, even the setbacks, so that we have that data and can dissect it and use it to our full advantage.   Knowledge is power and Data is our fuel for that power!  But if you find this boring or not useful to you, please by all means, scroll down to my Sunday Prep section where I discuss preparing for a healthy, awesome new week!

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SUNDAY PREP DAY AND FOODLOVE GIRL’S WEEKLY ACCOUNTABILITY REPORT (JUNE 12, 2016)

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Well, hello again and welcome to another week of FoodLove Girl’s Weekly Accountability and Sunday Prep Day.  This is my weekly post where I give you specific details on where I’m at in my weight loss journey.  This is both to help keep me accountable to you, my weight loss support community as well as to be sure to carefully document for you any successes I’m having and yes, even the setbacks so that we have that data and can dissect it and use it to our full advantage.   Knowledge is power and Data is our fuel for that power!  But if you find this boring or not useful to you, please by all means, scroll down to my Sunday Prep section where I discuss my strategies for preparing for a healthy, awesome week!

 

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Experimenting As a Way of Life Can Help You Lose Weight

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Okay, so this is why you should love this blog, b/c I look and listen and read everything with a “weight loss eye”.  I am always asking “how can I apply that to my health journey”.  And then I share it with you. Anything that works for me, I share with you.  Heck, anything that doesn’t work for me, I share with you.  It is my hope that through this blog, and through my journey, I can shorten your journey.  If I can help even one person to lose weight faster, shave off one year or one month from their journey, then it will have been worth it.

I heard this podcast, The Chalene Show, and the episode was called “Mastering the Skills of Joy and Happiness with Best Selling author R. Michael Anderson.  This guy said something very important that I think can help us on our weight loss journey.  He said, when faced with a decision or a challenge you’re wanting to do, don’t make it so finite by saying “I’m going to do this or that”.   Why not instead just say “I’m trying an experiment” because when you experiment you’re testing.  You admittedly don’t know if it’s going to work, that’s why you’re experimenting.  Suddenly failure is allowed.  Brilliant.

Words are very important.  The words we use to talk about ourselves to other people, the words we use to talk to ourselves.  They are all very important.  The words we use can either empower us or debilitate us.  If we say, “I’m going to go on a diet” What does that do?  It sets up this impression that we’re going to do something that has a finite time frame on it and it’s going to give us lasting results.  So either we fail at sticking to the diet through the duration of the set time frame or we fail at keeping the weight off after the diet.  Either way we fail.

But if we say “I’m going to experiment with this style of eating” then we’ve established a plan that has an indefinite time frame on it for as long as we benefit from it.  And if we stop benefiting from that style of eating, well then we gain some knowledge about what does and doesn’t work for us.  Continue reading

Create a Life of Systems to De-Stress and Lose Weight

So in this community, the awesome and inspiring FoodLoveMe Community,  we are working together to create a healthy relationship with food. In my own journey I’ve found that just because we have the information doesn’t mean the knowledge is enough to make the change. Changing habits takes time and changing your heart and making a paradigm shift about how you relate to food takes even more time. But while we sure figuring that out there are things we can do to help us along the way. We can still lose weight while we’re working on the emotional issues. This isn’t about waiting until everything in your head and heart is right before you can lose the weight. No. This is a bit fixing the real problem so that when you do lose the weight, you have the mindset you need to keep it off. Because as we all know that’s the real goal. Keep in it off and moving on with our lives.
So I said all that to find you that my goal in the FoodLoveMe community is to help you figure out what you’re really hungry for But also to give you the tools to make losing weight easier while you’re doing the hard work of getting your headspace right.
So today’s tool/tip: Create more systems in your life! Let me explain.

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Exercising versus Moving More: 5 Tips to Increase Your Daily Activity

 

are you moving as much as you should during the day? move more than just in your prescribed workouts So last week I talked about how working out should be used to improve your overall health and happiness but it shouldn’t be used to move the number on the scale.  When I did my goal setting for the new year I used a program called 5 Days to Your Best Year Ever and in that program they teach you to look at recurring themes of the previous year to help you identify where you need to improve.  One of my recurring themes was that I needed to Move More.  I spent a lot of time last year separating exercise from nutrition and working to exercise only for pleasure and for my overall health and less focusing on what it did for me on that scale.   But I realized that outside of my prescribed “workouts” I wasn’t simply moving a lot in my day to day activities.  There was way too much sitting going on and sitting makes you more susceptible to thinking you’re hungry when you’re not.  You’re bored or uninspired or unfulfilled in some other way that you are confusing with hunger.  So I started looking at ways that I could increase my everyday movement and here are my top tips for moving more without actually having to do a prescribed workout. Continue reading

Exercise For Your Health NOT To Be Thin!

Exercise For Your Health NOT To Be Thin!

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So this is a topic that I’ve been meaning to talk about for a while and I’ve been hearing a lot of chatter about it online recently and I heard a great podcast about it and so it has finally compelled me to discuss it with you today but it is long overdue.  And that is the subject of exercise.  More specifically I am hear to tell you a brutal, honest truth.  Here goes:  Exercise will not help you lose weight.  It won’t.  But you should love it anyway.  Confused?  Let me explain. Continue reading

The Book That Changed My Weight Loss Journey Forever

BODY REVOLUTION [DAY 66 – NOVEMBER 14, 2015]

Single most important read to help cure emotional eating

 

The book is A Course In Weight Loss: 21 Spiritual Lessons for Surrendering Your Weight Forever by Williamson, Marianne 1st (first) Edition (11/2/2010)
Let me start by saying this year was my third attempt at trying to finish this book.  The fist time I made it through the first 3 lessons and that was enough to get me going to lose that 30 lbs I lost in 2010/2011.  But it wasn’t enough to keep it off.  This time, after reading some other very good books that helped me tap into my past (posts coming later on those) and books that helped me get closer to “my life’s work”, after reading these books and really coming to terms with the idea that my real work in weight loss at this point has got to be on my brain and my heart – not my body (i.e. not exercise).  Also my new habit of practicing the Miracle Mornings allowed me the time to work through the exercises in this book and really think about what they meant to my life.   When I came to terms with that earlier this year, I was able to get back to this book for the third and final time and I made it all the way through.

In short the book’s message is this:

You are overweight because you use food to cope with your fears.  Instead, turn to God and let his love support you through this journey and fill up your heart so that there is no room for fear. Continue reading