First off let me say that this might be my favorite topic regarding weight loss thus far. I’ve probably heard some version of this idea before but the first time it really clicked form was when I listened to a recent podcast episode of Michael Hyatt’s show, This Is Your Life. . His podcast is wonderful if you’ve never listened to it – so inspirational and effective in all things pertaining to self improvement and leadership. The episode I am referring to today was Season 6, Episode 3: Change Your Story Change Your Life. You can find it at: http://michaelhyatt.com/season-6-episode-06-change-your-story-change-your-life-podcast.html
Today we are talking more about the noises in our head. But we’re talking specifically about the stories that we make up to summarize how we think we should feel about what has happened to us or how we think someone feels about us. Have you noticed how we have a little voice in our heads that tells us stories? It’s like a narrator. Constantly “concluding” things whether we ask it to or not. Something happens and here comes the narrator to sum it all up in one nice neat little package. Except sometimes it’s not always nice. Sometimes the summation or the’ story’ serves no purpose other than to make us feel bad about ourselves. Have you had this happen? Someone says something to you and inside your head there’s this voice that pops up and tells you how you should feel about those remarks.
But here’s the thing we need to understand and pay attention because it’s gold. We are in control of these narrations. We can make them whatever we want. We can’t control the words that come out of other people’s mouths or the actions they take. We can’t even control all of the events that happen in our lives. But we can take control of the story we tell ourselves about these statements and events.
We can make up any story we want. We are in control of our narrator.
We can change the story.
I had to sit with that statement for a while. First I had to truly believe that I was making up stories. I had to go back and analyze what people had said to me and what I had concluded from those statements. And I realized that 9 out of 10 times I was adding all kinds of insinuations and interpretations to what they were saying and I had no proof any of my assumptions were true. No proof whatsoever! I had just made up a story. And even if I had proof- so what? What good would that proof do me? Believe these negative thoughts was not serving me.
Now, if you make up a story and it leaves you feeling great and wonderful and self-empowering then by all means, keep doing that. Those stories are leaving you with increased self -confidence and therefore they are good for you. They are serving you.
But if your stories are leaving you filled with self-doubt and self pity and less self-worth then we have a problem. Because those stories are not serving you at all.
If the story doesn’t serve then we must change it. That’s the rule. And guess what? We can do that. We can change it. Because it isn’t real. It’s made up. So if it’s an imaginary story anyway, then why not make it a story that serves you?
Now let’s look at this from a weight loss perspective since that’s what we really care about. 🙂 Continue reading