Picture Your Ideal Life to Lose Weight Faster

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As I’ve mentioned many times before, one of the most important things I did for myself on this journey in weight loss was to read and complete all of the exercised in the book, A Course in Weight Loss: 21 Spiritual Lessons for Surrendering Your Weight Forever.  That book was quite possibly the most important book I’ve read to date regarding getting to the truth of my emotional eating.  Towards the end of the book there is an exercise called, “Redesign”.  In this exercise you basically picture your “Ideal Day”, so, for me what a day in the life of “Skinny” FoodLove Girl looks like.  The point is to envision how food is naturally incorporated into your life when you’re living a very healthy lifestyle and really picture what that day looks like.

In this journey we’ve got to really start picturing how we want things to be.

We can’t achieve what we can’t see.

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Look Great At Any Weight

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“Dress Shabby and they remember the dress.  Dress impeccable and they remember the woman.”

-Coco Chanel

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(picture of me in one of my standard blue (color varies a little)  long sleeve shirt and black pants)

This is not what Coco had in mind.

When I took this picture it was May of last year and I am wearing black pants.  Why?  Black is slimming, of course.  My largest area of concern with my fat is my thighs so I am always trying to wear the most slimming thing possible where they are concerned.

The blue shirt is the constant shirt of the moment (throughout my life various tops have taken on this role and only left the scene from pure exhaustion).  I originally bought this shirt  as a genius packing idea for a trip to Europe.  We were gone 2 weeks and didn’t want to do laundry and also didn’t want to check bags.  15 of these shirts proved to be cheap (Thank you TJ Maxx).    These shirts fold very well and don’t  get too wrinkled and you can wear them anywhere.  Also they are just the right weight to make it through most warm or cool weather.  But when I got home and gained even more weight (2014 fall/winter) these shirts shifted into daily wear and I haven’t stopped wearing them since.  This pattern has recurred in my life many times.  I buy something for some “good reason” – an event that I need to “get through” and then that article of clothing becomes my go-to for everything!   But No More! Continue reading

Change Your Story, Change Your Weight

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First off let me say that this might be my favorite topic regarding weight loss thus far. I’ve probably heard some version of this  idea before but the first time it really clicked form  was when I  listened to a recent podcast  episode of Michael Hyatt’s show, This  Is Your Life.  . His podcast is wonderful if you’ve never listened to it – so inspirational and effective in all things pertaining to self improvement and leadership. The episode I am referring to today was Season 6, Episode 3: Change Your Story Change Your Life. You can find it at: http://michaelhyatt.com/season-6-episode-06-change-your-story-change-your-life-podcast.html

Today we are talking more about the noises in our head. But we’re talking specifically about the stories that we make up to summarize how we think we should feel about what has happened to us or how we think someone feels about us. Have you noticed how we have a little voice in our heads that tells us stories? It’s like a narrator. Constantly “concluding” things whether we ask it to or not. Something happens and here comes the narrator to sum it all up in one nice neat little package. Except sometimes it’s not always nice. Sometimes the summation or the’ story’ serves no purpose other than to make us feel bad about ourselves. Have you had this happen? Someone says something to you and inside your head there’s this voice that pops up and tells you how you should feel about those remarks.

But here’s the thing we need to understand and pay attention because it’s gold. We are in control of these narrations. We can make them whatever we want. We can’t control the words that come out of other people’s mouths or the actions they take. We can’t even control all of the events that happen in our lives. But we can take control of the story we tell ourselves about these statements and events.

We can make up any story we want. We are in control of our narrator.

We can change the story.

I had to sit with that statement for a while. First I had to truly believe that I was making up stories. I had to go back and analyze what people had said to me and what I had concluded from those statements. And I realized that 9 out of 10 times I was adding all kinds of insinuations and interpretations to what they were saying and I had no proof any of my assumptions were true. No proof whatsoever! I had just made up a story. And even if I had proof- so what? What good would that proof do me? Believe these negative thoughts was not serving me.

Now, if you make up a story and it leaves you feeling great and wonderful and self-empowering then by all means, keep doing that. Those stories are leaving you with increased self -confidence and therefore they are good for you. They are serving you.

But if your stories are leaving you filled with self-doubt and self pity and less self-worth then we have a problem. Because those stories are not serving you at all.

If the story doesn’t serve then we must change it. That’s the rule. And guess what? We can do that. We can change it. Because it isn’t real. It’s made up. So if it’s an imaginary story anyway, then why not make it a story that serves you?

Now let’s look at this from a weight loss perspective since that’s what we really care about.  🙂  Continue reading