Why Your Partner is Sabotaging Your Weight Loss Efforts and 5 Tips to Make Him Stop

When I got married, my mother gave me a piece of advice. She said to me: when couples move in together their daily habits start to merge and they end up resembling each other physically. You look and you’ll see that if one person is athletic their partner probably is too. If one is super lean then their partner probably is too. If one is a muscle bound gym rat, the other probably is too. And if one is overweight the other person probably is too.  And if they aren’t, give them time. One person in the relationship will shift the other way, the only question is which way will the shift occur. So beware and make sure the shift occurred in your favor.
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When you start to make healthier choices in an effort to lose weight and improve your lifestyle you may notice your partner trying to sabotage your efforts by bringing home little treats or encouraging you to make bad choices at the restaurant. You may even see him eat worse than usual in an effort to convince you that you’re not eating so bad when you cheat- not compared to him anyway.
Why is he doing this? What’s his motive?
Believe it or not, it’s not really about you. It’s really about him. He’s not a bad, evil person. He’s frightened that you are changing and that you might be outgrowing him. Suddenly your discipline and self control are threatening to his everyday life. And so he has 2 choices. He can jump on board or he can sabotage your efforts and try to get you to regress. 9 out of 10 times, your partner will try the latter. It’s easier to try to get you to cheat than to try to make changes for himself and get healthier with you.  And the more progress he sees the worse his sabotaging will get and it will become very hard for you to meet your goals and live in the same house with him. But if you understand his motives then you can do your part to patiently show him that sabotaging you will not work in the long run and that joining you in this new and health lifestyle is really his only option.

Getting him to see the light will take some time but here are 5 tips to help you continue to make progress even when he tries to sabotage your efforts.

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5 Easy Tricks to Help You Stop Eating Your Partner’s Snacks

“I’d be skinny if it wasn’t for my partner’s snacks.”

How many of you have said that before?

Blaming our significant other for our bad habits is all too easy and sometimes feels very true. Afterall, if the food wasn’t in the house we wouldn’t eat it and who brought it in the house in the first place?

Well, we can’t always get our partners to eat healthy with us but we can do more to ensure that their unhealthy choices don’t end up on our hips.
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 Here are 5 tricks to that can help you stay away from your partner’s snacks:

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How to Get Your Workouts Done When You Are a New Mom: 7 Tips

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I had a baby 12 weeks ago.  Typically you are medically allowed to start working out 6 weeks after you give birth.  Being medically allowed to do something and actually getting started and finding time are two very different things.  I think that this time in my life is the most insane period I’ve ever had when it comes to finding a spare moment and navigating the logistics that come with having a newborn in the house.  It’s been 4 weeks now since  I started working out and I have figured out some tricks to set yourself up for success.  I hope you find them useful.

7 Tips for Getting Your Workouts Done When You are a New Mom:

1. Remember the primary goal: to move your body vigorously for a minimum of 30 minutes everyday. No matter what’s happening if you remember this is the goal then you will have a greater chance of overcoming obstacles in your way because you won’t be distracted  by things that don’t matter.  The only thing that matters is moving your body vigorously for 30 minutes or more. Continue reading