I Have A Dream (A Weight Loss Dream)

Today as we sit and think about the wonderful dream of Martin Luther King, Jr. that we would all get along and celebrate each other’s differences instead of persecuting each other for them, I am left with a thought about my own dreams for each of us in regards to our weight loss journeys and our health.














My (Weight-Loss) Dream:

I have a dream that one day we will no longer judge each other for how much weight we carry around.  We will no longer stereotype an overweight person as lazy or lacking self-control.  We won’t idolize people simply because they are a size 2 and nothing more.

I have a dream that one day modeling will be a profession for women of all sizes, shapes and colors because the fashion industry will truly be selling to everyone and celebrating everyone no matter what size jeans they wear.

I dream of day when we speak of programs like Weight Watchers as a thing of the past, a thing our ancestors used to participate in and people will say,  “oh, isn’t that a funny thing to think about – paying someone to make you stand in line and weigh yourself and count points for every morsel of food you put into your mouth.”

I dream of a day when scales are these antique artifacts left in our grandparents’ attics to discover and marvel at because we no longer use our weight as a measure of our self-worth.

A day when we all truly celebrate each other’s shapes, and curves and skin and love ourselves just as God made us.

I dream of a day when our work lives are so beautifully balanced with our play that we no longer look to food to soothe us and help us de-stress from a hectic life.

I dream of a world where unhealthy fast food and drive-ins are as deserted and ancient as old Blockbuster video stores.

I dream of a world where when you drive down the street on a warm summer day you can see countless groups of families and friends all gathered around enormous outdoor tables, block after block, communing over a good meal at the end of a long beautiful day.

I dream of day when coupons are available for fresh produce and not just cheap, sugary cereal.  I dream of grocery stores where the front aisles near the cashier are filled with enticing fresh fruits instead of candy bars.

I dream of a day when the nutrition labels are no longer necessary because all of the food is real, and whole and good and chemical free.

I dream of a world where cars are a hobby and not a necessity and everyone walks and bikes everywhere they need to go without hardship or difficulty because every city caters to the pedestrian instead of the car.

I dream of a world where gyms are few and far between because most people get the exercise they need from their daily living and they no longer need to spend an hour each day on the treadmill.

In this dream world, because of all these things, less and less people carry extra weight on them.  Being overweight and having a “weight loss journey” is a thing of the past.  It is much easier to maintain your body’s natural weight. It is much easier to enjoy food without overeating.  It is much easier to exercise without overexercising.  In this dream world, the natural way that we all live supports a healthy lifestyle at a healthy weight without extreme efforts from the individual. 

Most of all, I dream of a day when we can stop re-learning how to be healthy as adults because we never forget from our childhood We start off healthy and we continue on that path for the rest of our days.  Our jobs, our grocery stores, our restaurants, our schools, and our governments, all support our healthy lifestyles with ease.  In this dream world of mine, it doesn’t cost us more to be healthy.  In this world people aren’t made to seem like weirdos for wanting cheaper, homecooked meals.  We’re not odd-balls for wanting to walk to work and get off work before the sun goes down instead of sitting in our cars in traffic for hours and hours each day.  No.  In this world, health comes first, mental and physical, for all human beings no matter their age, race, or economic state.  I have a dream, I have a dream.  I have a dream.

Happy Martin Luther King, Jr. Day!!   What’s your (weight loss) dream?  Share in the comments below.

The Simplest Thing You Can Do To Lose Weight in 2018 All Year Long

The one thing you can do right now to help you start losing weight fast is to find one thing that makes you feel good about the way you look that also has nothing to do with the number on the scale.  For me that one thing was rolling my hair at night.
For years my mother has been trying to get me to do this but I just blew her off  because it seemed like it would just be one more thing I had to add to my to-do list.  But this past summer, I finally took her advice and started rolling my hair at night.  4 months later its the single best thing I’ve done for my weight all year.
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For years my mother insisted that if I just rolled my hair at night it  would give me a nice curl in the morning. At that time in my life I was spending a lot of time overexercising so my main hairstyle was a quick ponytail. It was very boring,  understated and plain.
Subconsciously what was really going on was that I was telling myself, “you are too fat to walk around with your hair looking special. What’s the point anyway? All people will see is how big you are. You’ll seem silly trying to keep your hair nice when everything else looks so bad so don’t bother.”
So what’s changed?
Why did I finally  decide to listen to my mom and try rolling my hair? It certainly wasn’t because I had lost weight. In fact I had a baby in March so I was even bigger!
Two years ago I changed the way I approached my weight loss journey. I made a deliberate effort to look as good as I possibly could at the current weight I was. No more waiting on the weight.
As a result something incredible happened.
I felt pretty. Not “pretty for a fat girl”, but truly pretty. I looked good on the outside and that made me feel good on the inside. It turned out that treating myself well and being good to myself was the exact recipe for weight loss that I needed.
Each day that I got up,got dressed and walked outside feeling pretty resulted in a day where I didn’t want to numb myself out with food. As a result I naturally started eating less and eating better to make sure that I kept feeling good. Feeling good on the outside started translating to feeling good on the inside.
 Deone Sanders said it best,
“When you look good, you feel good. When you feel good, you play good. When you play good you get paid good. When you get paid good you live good.”
Perhaps we can alter that to apply to our weight loss journey.
“When you look good, you feel good. When you feel good, you want to eat good. When you eat good you play good. When you play good, you live good.”
You get the idea.
After all of that work I was in a much better place to hear my mother’s suggestion to roll my hair at night and so I did. Now, instead of seeming like a chore, it just seemed like the next natural step in my quest to look my very best. My wardrobe was popping, of course my hair should follow suit. Boy what a difference that made this year!
 Being overweight and then having a baby and gaining even more weight was a very challenging moment in my life. This could have been a time when I sunk further into the dieting abyss. But because of the work I had already done I was prepared and I knew that the first thing to do was find my beauty right then and there, post pregnancy body and all. Rolling my hair helped me do that.
Now everyday when I wake up and I unroll my hair,  I see those fantastic curls and I get giddy with joy. My hair looks awesome! I am excited to get out there and start my day! From that single nightly habit comes a dozen other actions throughout the day that are good for me and will eventually lead to me losing weight naturally.
I do believe with all my heart that one day soon I will walk this earth with no more excess weight on my body. I haven’t given up on that goal.  But now, when I do, it won’t be because I sustained a ridiculous 1200 calorie diet or pushed through endless hours of bootcamp. No. It will be because I learned to love myself as I am in this moment. My body will in turn respond to that love and let go of the protection that it sought in the excess weight.
Loving myself today starts with simple habits like taking the time to roll my hair every night so that I can look my very best the first chance I get, not when the scale tells me its okay to do so.
What is the one thing you do today to look and feel your best as soon as possible? Leave a comment. I’d love to hear from you.



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