My sister recently shared with me, “the best thing just happened to me. I was in my doctor’s office getting my standard six week check-up after having the baby and I was standing in front of the mirror in the room naked. And as I looked at all the changes that have taken place on my body, I realized, I will never look like I did before, ever again.” There’s no way it’s ever going to go back to how it looked before. And you know what, I instantly felt relieved. All this pressure to lose weight and “get back to how it was before” was suddenly over.
She said that, before the baby, if she gained weight she’d admonish herself and make promises to get back to her pre-college weight because she knew she could and she thought she should. She would diet and exercise then of course binge later and feel guilty that she didn’t have more self-control. And around and around we go. But this time, she could not ignore the obvious insanity of taking that approach yet again. She had just had a baby and the changes were much more dramatic this time that in previous weight gain episodes. This was much more than weight gain. This was a monumental change to her entire body inside and out. And she realized that there was no going back. Continue reading
My biggest fear used to be that I wouldn’t lose weight before I got pregnant. I was so fearful of going into a pregnancy when I was already overweight that I delayed getting pregnant for several years even when I was ready to start a family. I was not so overweight that doctors were worried about me having a healthy pregnancy. No. I just wasn’t at my ideal weight or whatever I had decided that should be.
When I finally faced my fears not only did I get pregnant and have a beautiful, healthy son (Yay!) but I also realized that my fears were in fact assets. If you think that being overweight means that you can’t get pregnant or that you won’t enjoy your pregnancy think again. I ended up not only facing my fears but enjoying a large part of my pregnancy (not the very end!).