Okay, so this is why you should love this blog, b/c I look and listen and read everything with a “weight loss eye”. I am always asking “how can I apply that to my health journey”. And then I share it with you. Anything that works for me, I share with you. Heck, anything that doesn’t work for me, I share with you. It is my hope that through this blog, and through my journey, I can shorten your journey. If I can help even one person to lose weight faster, shave off one year or one month from their journey, then it will have been worth it.
I heard this podcast, The Chalene Show, and the episode was called “Mastering the Skills of Joy and Happiness with Best Selling author R. Michael Anderson. This guy said something very important that I think can help us on our weight loss journey. He said, when faced with a decision or a challenge you’re wanting to do, don’t make it so finite by saying “I’m going to do this or that”. Why not instead just say “I’m trying an experiment” because when you experiment you’re testing. You admittedly don’t know if it’s going to work, that’s why you’re experimenting. Suddenly failure is allowed. Brilliant.
Words are very important. The words we use to talk about ourselves to other people, the words we use to talk to ourselves. They are all very important. The words we use can either empower us or debilitate us. If we say, “I’m going to go on a diet” What does that do? It sets up this impression that we’re going to do something that has a finite time frame on it and it’s going to give us lasting results. So either we fail at sticking to the diet through the duration of the set time frame or we fail at keeping the weight off after the diet. Either way we fail.
But if we say “I’m going to experiment with this style of eating” then we’ve established a plan that has an indefinite time frame on it for as long as we benefit from it. And if we stop benefiting from that style of eating, well then we gain some knowledge about what does and doesn’t work for us.
Experimenting. That’s what we’re doing here in the FoodLoveMe Community. We’ve realized we have a problem with emotional eating, we’re learning how to fix that and along this journey we’re experimenting with different ways to get at the truth of our fear; we’re experimenting with ways to lose the weight while we fix the heart. What we do know is that no one way works for everyone. I try a lot of stuff and at this point in my life I only try what makes sense; preferably what seems like it has staying power, preferably what has science behind it but most importantly what I think will work for me based on what I know about myself. But I’m not always right. Doesn’t that mean I failed? Well, I guess it could if I said “I’m going to do this.” And then it doesn’t work. But what if I said “I’m going to experiment?”
So yesterday I was reading this blog, Budgets Are Sexy and he did an interview for this other website in which he described what he does on his blog as an experiment. He said he experiments with his whole life and then reports on what does and doesn’t work. And he listed all the experiments he was currently doing. And so that got me thinking.
I mean that’s what I’ve offered on this blog, right? I’ve offered up my life as your experiment.
When I first decided to start this blog, i thought that I could not write about weight loss because i hadn’t figured it all out yet. But then Pat Flynn reminded me, “you have figured some stuff out” and those people in the beginning of their journey can learn from that and save themselves some time and money. And as you continue to learn, you’ll continue to share and one day you will be an expert but for now you’re their guinea pig. So that’s what I aimed to do here. I’ve said “follow me on this blog and see if what I do works”. And then if it does work, evaluate it for yourself. Last year, I journaled my 21 day experience with the Virgin Diet. I reported back my 3 month journey with Body Revolution. And I shared my growth through implementing the Miracle Morning process during Ramadan. And finally I’ve shared clips from my journal that resulted from reading A Course in Weight Loss: 21 Lessons. Today, I’ve given you the blow by blow in my Weekly Accountability Report so you can see exactly how I’m living my life and what parts are making me healthier and which parts are slowing me down.
All so you can learn. So we can both learn.
All so you can grow – based on my experiments. So it’s not a failure because we’re learning from it. I’m learning from it and hopefully you are too by reading this blog.
So that’s what I’m going to say from now own. I’m going to be careful with my words and set myself up for success and I hope you do the same. I’m not an expert at this. I don’t know everything. I don’t have all the answers. I know a little bit about myself based on living my life. And through the years I’ve learned a little bit about what does and doesn’t work for me. But it’s never over. I’m still learning and hopefully I’m getting better as a result. I think I am.
So, What am I experimenting with now?
Experiment #1 – Using This Blog to Help me Lose Weight
It is my belief that starting this blog last year was one of the best decisions I made for my weight loss journey. It has given me a platform to express my innermost feelings about my battle with emotional eating. It has provided me an unlikely source of accountability and showing up to this blog every week has made me show up equally for my health. Since starting this blog it has also made me realize how important other people’s journeys have been for my own journey. Hearing their stories inspires me and teaches me something new everyday. It’s why I encourage all of my readers to start their own blog and share their journey. You never know who you might help by sharing your story.
Experiment #2 – Making My Weight Loss Journey Finally Pay Me – (FoodCostMe/FoodPayMe Series)
So this is kind of fun. After years of diet programs, diet foods, fast food, junk food, exercise equipment and gym memberships and classes, I think it’s about time I make money off this journey that has costed me so much. I am on a journey to find out if I can create a passive income by blogging about my weight loss journey. I think it would be ironic and it would make my journey come full circle if after years of gaining weight and trying to pay my way to my problem if I could now lose the weight and make money in the process.
Experiment #3 – Using the Virgin Diet as my primary guidelines for my everyday eating
I’m not sure if this will work but after doing Phase 1 – 21 days and chronicling it for you on the blog, I feel that this is the best blueprint for eating healthy that has worked for me so far. I still eat things that are not a part of this plan and I definitely stick more to Phase 2 where you can introduce small amount of the “restricted” foods that cause many people discomfort. But for the most part, this plan seems to work for me. It allows me to eat the foods that I like and eat clean without a lot of effort and without feeling restricted which is very important. But I said, it’s an experiment so we shall see.
Experiment #4 – Turning my focus from weight loss to living my fullest life possible
This is the most important experiment of all.
In 2015, I finally admitted to myself that was putting my life on pause. I was waiting or this magical day when I would lose the eight and then I could do all the things I said I would do once I lost the weight – including start this blog. But no more. Now I have realized that the very things I was putting on pause were the things I needed to do to lose the weight. I was eating because I was hungry but I wasn’t hungry for food. I was hungry for a bigger life. A life full of adventure and fun and happiness – none of which food could give me. So now this journey has transformed and only a very small part is about eating clean and exercising. The majority of it is about seeking out this fuller life that I am destined to live ad letting my weight come off as a result of my change in focus.
Thank you for joining me on this journey. Thank you for being my witnesses and my partners in crime. I appreciate it more than you know. Together we are building something great in this FoodLoveMe Community – a space where people join together to heal their relationship with food and start living their lives once and for all.
Have you embarked on any experiments of late? How is it going? Any tips you want to share. Let’s talk about it. Leave a comment below.
I always want to give credit where credit is do. Here are links to the podcast and blog post that I mentioned in my post today:
The Experiment Article with the author from Budgets Are Sexy: http://www.badcredit.org/budgets-are-sexy-finance-blog/
Pat Flynn’s website in general is where I got the advice from various articles. That is: smartpassiveincome.com