I recently read a book called The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life. To be completely accurate, I “read” the book using Audible. I’m not sure how to explain it but certain books are better when listened to than when read and some are better when you actually read them. For me, this was the former. This book was very direct and in your face and in my opinion, it needs to be listened to. You need to really hear this and I think listening makes that easier when you’re not using your own voice and reading it. If you let it, this book can allow you to shift your mindset and you know that’s what we’re all about here at FoodLoveMe/FoodHateMe. We are trying to change our mindset. We’re trying to change how we think about our weight, about our relationship with food.
I believe some of the main points of this book can help us do that.
In The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life, Mark Manson explains how we can choose what we care about and what we don’t care about. As with everything I am constantly scouring information to figure out what can help us here in this community to free us from our unhealthy relationships with food and with our bodies and get to a healthier place. i believe his message can really help us.
We are in power. We are in control of what we choose to think about. Everyday we make a choice about whether or not to obsess about what we’re eating or not eating, how much we’re exercising or not exercising and of course about how much we weight. That’s a conscious choice we make everyday.
There are four rules from this book that I think we can apply to our obsession with weight loss that can help us heal our relationship with food.
- Choose to not give a fuck. I know, I know. That sounds too easy to be of help. But really, it starts with a choice. We have to start believing that we have the power to choose. So choose today, right here and right now that you’re simply not going to give a crap about what that damn scale says. Not anymore. Starting today, you do not give a F*ck about how much your weigh. It does not define you so it does not matter.
- Realize that you are not special and your problems are not unique. Rid yourself of your victim mentality. You are not the first person to struggle with weight. You are not the only person who has chosen food to soothe them emotionally. Hell, we’re building an entire community here, on this blog, based on that issue. When we take the victim mentality, we wallow in a state of “whoa is me” and we never get to the solution side of things. When we think we’re the only people with that problem then we start to think that the problem is so unique that it’s impossible to tackle. It’s too big for us. Not so. We can fix this, together. But first, let’s put it in perspective.
- Choose better f*cks! Get better values. Decide that there are more important things to spend your time and energy on than the number on a f*ckin’ scale! Just make that decision right now, today. There are much more important, worthy things to spend your time on. You are worth so much more than your weight, believe that, then refuse to spend any more time on it.
- Dare to challenge your beliefs because then you are free to grow and change. Finally – simply dare to belief that you don’t know everything. And what you thought you know, may not be right. Let me tell, you, try this one on for size. Seriously, it’s liberating. When you really consider the idea that you don’t know shit, it frees you up to learn new stuff about yourself, about how you approach- everything – including your weight loss journey. If you would allow the possibility that everything you’ve ever tried up to now was for shit, then you can open yourself up to the possibility that this idea of letting go of your obsession with our weight could in fact be the answer to losing the weight once and for all. Think about it.
I encourage you to read The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life, specifically, I encourage you to let someone else read it to you by using Audible and listening to it. Audible is a great way to get more information at a faster, more accessible pace. We can’t always stop what we’re doing to read a book but with Audible we can consume more information while we commute to work while we workout, while we do our house chores. My favorite way to use Audible is when I want to take a long walk. I read twice as many books last year than the prior year thanks to Audible. I have provided an affiliate link here. You can get a free 30-day trial using this link. I support getting new information any way we can especially when it helps us to change our mindset and create a lifestyle where we no longer obsess about our weight and can create a healthy relationship with food. Audible is helping me do that one book at a a time, and I encourage you to check it out.
How about you? Do you spend a ridiculous amount of time worried about that almighty number on the scale? Are you tired of it? Would you love to just be free of that obsession? What are you doing to help yourself stop? Leave a comment.
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See this candid interview with the author, Mark Manson, on the Marie Forleo show: click here